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bloody mary's

Jan. 31st, 2010 | 12:46 pm

I am thankful that I have not discovered bloody mary's until just now.

I cannot imagine the early morning to mid-afternoon drunk fest my life would have been up until now had I discovered or developed a taste for them sooner.

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Jan. 26th, 2010 | 08:47 pm

today was such a bad day that I have nothing but vulgar sexual things to say about it.

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Dec. 7th, 2009 | 12:45 pm

On the twelfth day of Christmas, bostonkatie sent to me...
Twelve mountains thinking
Eleven movies writing
Ten clothes a-collecting
Nine books arguing
Eight radicals a-knitting
Seven cartoons a-skiing
Six documentaries a-flirting
Five bu-u-u-utches
Four queers
Three gender freaks
Two sex radicals
...and a music in a photography.
Get your own Twelve Days:

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remembering we are immigrant

Oct. 4th, 2009 | 03:53 pm

Last night i could tell something was wrong. I could hear my father and step mother getting up late at night. the weight and the pace of the footsteps sounded more urgent than the usual trip to the bathroom or late night cut of water.

then I heard what sounded like a trash truck in the distance a fire truck followed by an ambulance. someone was in trouble. I got up and went upstairs.

My step grandmother was lying motionless in the hall of the apartment and the paramedics were working on her.

The fireman asked my step-mother and father if she has a DNR (which basically meant to me that she was already gone). My step mom and dad don't get "DNR" so I say the words "do not resuscitate" my step mother says -no, she has bronchitis, that she had a small stroke recently. The concept is beyond my ability to translate. Then the medics are asking questions -does she have a heart condition? Has she had heart problems? What medicines is she on? Where is the granddaughter?, they ask because I am the english speaker.

The whole time she is getting chest compressions and is bagged for breathing but she is utterly unresponsive. They never put oxygen on her which means she was not breathing on her own.

I tell them she had a heart attack a while back, she is on plavix and a bunch of other things, and then the rest of the questions I relay to my step mother IN ENGLISH because I DON'T SPEAK SPANISH and please don't patronize or humiliate my family in this moment by assuming that their daughter is better able to communicate with you.

I must always remember that we are not 'native', otherwise things like this sneak up on me.

After she left in the ambulance (which, by the way, was in no hurry to leave and was going to the nearest facility not her chosen hospital -another discouraging sign) I went into the house and picked up the trash the medics left behind -the plastic bags that kept thing sanitary. Then I went back to bed.

But I did not sleep and could hear the phone ringing upstairs when they got the call that she's died.

This morning I learned that because the admitting staff did not understand the convention of South American names, First name - Father's last name - Mother's last name, the admitted her under the wrong name and unless it gets changed her death certificate will be for a person she never was, someone elses daughter.

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another rant- federal work study

Sep. 2nd, 2009 | 04:18 pm

SO, because of the economic downturn and the increasing costs of education more students are eligible for federal work study. however, that does not mean that school grants have increased. As a result some schools are increasing the agency contribution (a students pay had been 25% agency/75% federal but the federal has not bed keeping pace with the increase {that federal created} in eligibility so schools have been subsidizing the difference.

But, they are obviously impacted by the economic decline and increase in costs too so some cannot subsidize as sharply as they had been.

What this means for us as a small non-profit is that it will become cost prohibitive to have work-study labor from schools that cannot subsidize as heavily. So, schools that have more money to subsidize their students will be the most likely to be offered employment with agencies (Of all sorts) because the higher subsidy means lower costs for the employer.

. . .ok, maybe I got ahead of myself in my own ranting because I just called UMass Boston (my old school and not a wealthy one and they still have the 25/75 split)

hmmmm, there might be an interesting investigative report/survey here.

Who want to do it?

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Sep. 2nd, 2009 | 11:36 am

I admit this is a no-brainer but I still have to rant a little.

I hate when magazines refer to women who have large breasts as "curvy" Chesty, Booby, Titsie? Sure. but if the fullest part of her body is measured around her cup (not her bust/rib) size she does not have curves she has large breasts and the clothes that look good on her "curvy body" will not look good on my curvy body which includes large rib cage, hips, thighs, and curves that can be measured both in terms of width (like across my hips) and in depth like how far away the back of my butt is from my front.

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top chef

Aug. 27th, 2009 | 10:59 am

many of this seasons contestants are queer looking and cute. Plus I love food and food shows.

eye candy making mouth candy is like heaven!

BUT i do not have Bravo.


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thom browne

Aug. 13th, 2009 | 03:53 pm

has a collection for brooks brothers that I drool over. it is exactly the kind of ironically subversive-ish crazy preppy way i would dress if i could pay (and were willing to pay) $700 for a blazer.

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silly useless work complaint

Aug. 12th, 2009 | 10:48 am

so. i have this job and in my capacity as the person who does the accounting/invoicing stuff I use quickbooks. and IF my boss would allow me to use that program in the way it is meant to be used and track things like our expenses and time in it it would be super easy and accurate for me to get info.

like when she says, as she has today, what have we spend on the MAPC contract, I can just generate a report on it. ta-dah.

But because she will not let me use it this way (for reasons I have tried but have not yet been able to ascertain) I instead have to go through a spreadsheet with our labor time and grab all the hours charged to said project, then I have to go through our paper reimbursement request forms to see which ones are for said project, THEN I need to look at expenses like the AmEx bill and see which of those apply.

And, if I were doing it the right way, the system would just generate an invoice for me based on what I have entered as the billable expenses for a customer or a job. BUT because we don't do it that way I have to track down bits of discrete info and reconstruct the whole invoice.

it is like inventing the wheel over and over again.
this drives me nuts!

Plus there are all these other things that happen because we do not use the system properly. For example, my boss can never see the net income on a project because (for some also maddening reason) we only have income accounts for our projects -not expenses. So it looks like we spend nothing to run a program -no labor, no supplies, nothing. We only take in money for it.

WHaaat?! That is not functional?!

ok. I have to do it now.

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